Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Guard Duty

You know what's really annoying? Trying to do guard duty with the drapes closed! Mom and Dad have been leaving the drapes closed on the big picture window and the patio door to help keep the cold air out during the day. Sounds like a good excuse doesn't it? It's not! It's hard to know what's going on outside if I have to wiggle through the drapes and then the shears. It's really annoying.

Sasha and Gunnar can get up on the window sill and walk because they're little. They are able to walk along the full length of the window and I can't!
Personally, I would think Mom should continue with her morning routine of opening the drapes for me so I can better guard my house. How intimidating is a little dacshund and a huge cat? Not as intimidating as a black lab!!!! Sheesh!

Thanks for sending nice words to Mom. She's doing much better the last couple of days. She says she feels okay enough that I can tell you what happened. You see, 1 year ago this Friday was the day her Mom died. I hated her mom because she was mean to my mom and she didn't like me. She thought my Mom was stupid for adopting a black lab because "labs are the dumbest breed." We all know the woman was WAY off, but I'm not going to get into that right now. Whenever she was around I would growl at her. Anyway, Mom didn't think the anniversary was going to bother her so much because her Mom hadn't spoken to her in over 2 years when she died. Sunday when the Christmas cookies turned into a disaster Mom was already kind of messed up in the head so all she could hear in her head was her mom telling her how she had screwed up and that she should have used her recipes since they always worked for her. Then Mom, Dad and Grandma started talking about what to do for Christmas dinner since the oven is pretty much dead and that got Mom thinking and of course made her sadder. Monday weird little things kept setting her off. Thanks to some very nice emails from Jamie (Sunny and Scooter's Mom) she figured out what was bothering her so much and why she was avoiding talking to people about what was upsetting her so much. Even though my mom's mom was really mean, Mom still loved her because she was her mom and she does have some good memories, especially around Christmas. This is actually the 4th Christmas Mom has had without her Mom and for some reason this one has been the hardest. The first 2 were when her Mom wasn't talking to her, then the 3rd was the one right after she died. This is the first Christmas that it's real for Mom that her Mom is really gone. Mom feels free now that her mom isn't around to tell her what a horrible person she is anymore, but deep down Mom had hope that her Mom would all of a sudden realize what a mean person she was being and apologize to Mom. It hit Mom pretty hard at the beginning of the week and combined with the confusion of how she was feeling, we were all very worried about her. Mom wants me to tell everyone thank you for your friendship and support and hopefully after we get through Friday, everything will be back to normal just in time for Christmas. Mom and I both are sending big hugs and thanks to Jamie. You helped Mom figure out what was upsetting her so much and that made her feel lots better.

17 comments:

The Daily Echo said...

We're sending HUGE hugs to your Mom. My Mom says she understands exactly how she feels because she struggles with her Mom now. It has taken her years to realize she will never be able to please her Mom but that's okay because she has us. Woo!
ECHO
Pee S: She really should build a wider window ledge for you.

Maggie and Mitch said...

Our mom has all the curtains closed at our house for the very same reason, Kaos! It really cramps our style!
We're sending lots of hugs to your mom! Our mom totally understands!

Love ya lots,
Maggie and Mitch

Mason Dixie said...

Lots of hugs to your mom, my Grandma B struggles this time of year also, such great women to have to lose. My curtains are also closed, but I manage to get through them to bark at those leaves.

Gus, Louie and Callie said...

We are with Echo, we are sending you HUGE HUGS mom. We know you can use a few of those. Glad you are doing better and Lady now can properly guard your home.. Hang in there.

Big Sloppy Kisses
Gus, Louie and Callie

Mango said...

Dexter here!
First, I am telling you that black labs are "too smart for their own good." At least that's what my momma says.

Curtains closed, unacceptable! You can't do your job with just your little nose. Besides, those weiner dogs will keep the drafts out OK.

Glad Mom is feeling better. That happened to Master when his parents died. He didn't miss who they were as much as who they could never be for him.

Kisses,
Dexter.

Lorenza said...

Hi, Kaos!
It makes me so happy to hear your mom is feeling better!
Kisses and hugs
Lorenza

Joe Stains said...

We hope your Mom continues to feel better, but we can understand why she feels sad too. And you certainly are NOT dumb!

Huskee and Hershey said...

Hi Kaos,
We are sending a gigantic hug over to your mom now.. our mom says she totally empathizes.. anniversaries and festive seasons can be hard. (Hey, labs are not the 'dumbest breed'! In fact, ALL dogs (regardless of breed) are smart! How else can we have our humans eating right out of our little paws, right? *wink*)
You know something, Hershey has the annoying habit of trying to draw the drapes apart just so that she can people-watch.. it annoys mom! Heehee..

Petra said...

Christmas time can bring back memories that are good and bad. I'm glad your mom figured out why she was feeling sad and am happy she is feeling better now.

Booooo on the curtain that cramps your style, Kaos!

Gus, Louie and Callie said...

Oh yes Callie is ready she just needs to grow a bit more and practice her "down" and "stay"


Big Sloppy Kisses
Gus, Louie and Callie

MONA AND THE MOMMY! said...

Hi Kaos,

Tell your Mommy from my Mommy that she went through the same thing with her Daddy so lots of us feele the same way and she will make it through just like she did. Thank goodness they gots us to cheer them up except when we chew paper up.

I lay on my chair in front of the patio door so I can look outside while the Mommy is at work but it does get a little cold up there sometime. The Mommy isn't gonna do my snow post until New Years weekend so you still got time to semd me some snow pictures.

Merry Christmas....no more paper chewing becuase Santa Paws might not give us any presents.

Love ya lots....Mona & the Mommy too!!

Gus, Louie and Callie said...

Glad we aren't the only ones with the strange weather. Today it is hot Sunday it is supposed to be cold again...

Big Sloppy Kisses
Gus, Louie and Callie

Peanut said...

Hugs to your mom. Your mom needs to open those curtains. Our mom doesn't open ours either though.

Love
Flash

Deefor said...

Lots of humans feel that way. Sometimes just cause people are related doesn't mean they're nice. Give your mom a lick from me.

Deefor

Penny, Poppy & Patches said...

We hope your mom is feeling better by now! This is the 4th Christmas since our mom lost her mom too. It's always harder around the holidays. We'll send lots of Aire-zen for your mom!

Aire-hugs,
Poppy, Penny & Patches

Moco said...

We get the blinds put down on us all the time because we bark at the interlopers outside the house. We agree. How are we to guard if we can't see. Hoomans are so goofy.

Marvin -The Hollow Hound said...

oh your post here (apologies for being so late in commenting.....) made my Jeannie feel quite sad, and also feel for your Mama.

Relationships, she says to tell your Mama, are a big trial, especially between Mothers and Daughters.

We are sorry your Mama's Mum was so bad to your Mama, life is too short for all these horrible things.

And we hope your Mama is feeling a wee bit better now. Christmas is a sad time sometimes as well as a supposedly jolly time.

Tell your Mama from us to take it easy, not be too hard on herself and to remember we have been down the same path with grief and regret.

love and sad licks, and healing licks to your Mama, Marvin and Jeannie xxxxxxxx